***First Steps into Anal Sex:*** **Relax, Lubricate, and Exp..

***First Steps into Anal Sex:*** **Relax, Lubricate, and Explore with Confidence!** For my champions of your own pleasure! 🔥❤️ To begin with, it is important to clarify that ***Anal Sex is NOT just penetration!*** ❌ <*It is ANY sexual practice that includes stimulation of the perianal zone*> in other words, the perineum and anus. This stimulation can be with fingers, toys (WITH TOP), tongue. Clarification ‼️: 🔸PERINEUM (between testicles/vulva and anus). 🔸PERIANAL ZONE (between perineum and anus) We can **STIMULATE OUR PERIANAL ZONE** in the following ways… ✔️External (by putting a light pressure with our fingers or stroking the perineum) and ✔️Internal (entering our asterisk internally with any element, with a stop). You can stimulate alone 👋🏼 or in couple 🤜🏽🤛🏽 It is BETTER if you ***Start Alone*** 💯, so you know which areas stimulate you the most and how you like to communicate it to your sexual partner. At this point communication is very important‼️Read on and I'll tell you why 🤓👇🏼 The anus has many nerve endings. It has internal and external sphincter. 👉🏼The EXTERNAL SPHINTER can be controlled **voluntarily**. You can contract and relax it whenever you want, in this sense Kegel exercises will allow you to identify and pelvic floor muscles where this sphincter is located and with it a whole bunch of benefits for your sexual health 🤗 (Go read the post about Kegel exercises, if you haven't done it yet to understand better :) 👉🏼The INTERNAL SPHINTER, on the other hand, **is involuntary**. So if my ass has never had the sensation of having an element inside, it will probably pucker or contract involuntarily and that will make me feel uncomfortable or hurt 🫣 That's why it's important to become familiar with and ***practice some SKILLS*** , such as: 💭 **Mental control**: because here may appear instructive thoughts, maybe loaded with prejudices, as for example: *it will hurt, if I like it means I'm gay, this does not make men, it is dangerous because dilation is bad for health, anal dilation is forever*. (I tell you an anecdote for you to laugh at the end of reading this post 🙈😅) 🫁 **Breathing control:** Breathing is important to start to RELAX. I suggest you put all your attention, in a space of intimacy, to locate in your mental map of your body the anal zone. *Inhale and contract for 5 seconds, then exhale and release/relax the area in 5 seconds* (do not push). In this way you will actively contract and relax the anus. After you practice this several times you will be able to master anal relaxation whenever you want! ⭕️ **Dilation** 1️⃣The use of LUBRICANT 💧 is ***essential and obligatory***. We must cover with lubricant all the perianal area and all the toy that we are going to introduce! We recommend water-based lubricant or specific for anal sex. Our anus does not lubricate by itself, so if we use generously the lubricant we could *prevent fissures inside the anus, which could cause pain and infection!* We don't want that! 🙃 2️⃣Practice with your own fingers ✋🏼, get familiar with the sensation of stimulating yourself there! Make sure your nails are short and rounded. We don't want to scratch ourselves either! If you're repulsed by dirt or prefer the surface to feel more uniform, cover your finger with a latex condom or thimble. ***Lubricate the entire length*** of your index or middle finger. Start by touching the perianal area and the edges of the anus. *Smile, breathe and relax!* 🙌🏼 Put the first phalanx of your finger in and stop there. ***Spoiler alert!*** If the anus contracts, take a few seconds to relax it. Move slowly with the second phalanx, when you feel ready insert the whole finger and stay there for a few seconds, without moving it. When you feel comfortable with the sensation, you can introduce more fingers or play with a toy! *If we understand that this first experience is just a practice to familiarize doesn't necessarily have to be an excitation and penetration of the in and out!* 🤗 Something that rough porn does not let us see.... ***The dilation is prior to penetration!*** Then we have the illusion that sex is just the in and out 😅😜 🗣️ **Communication**: Being an area that requires these skills COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR SEXUAL PARTNER to enjoy it and not hurt is essential. Tell your partner when to stop and continue, the rhythm you like. Start with a position that allows you to control the depth of penetration. ‼️Recommendations: 🔥**Double stimulation:** Stimulate the perianal zone and at the same time ***another zone that excites me*** (Glans or clitoris) in this way we will be generating an experience of association of stimulus. 🌶️ **Use toys:** Very important my good men! ***Toys with stopper***, let's avoid a bad experience, because the ass tends to suck 😲✨***The anal plug***✨ is a good toy to initiate you, recommended ***silicone and in the form of cone***. Also, we cover with lubricant and at our time we introduce and stop in case of discomfort. I relax and continue (kegel exercises, inhale, contract, exhale and relax). When you have the toy in, you can stay with the toy and change positions to familiarize yourself with the sensation. To remove it, grasp the top and relax. You can make a gentle expulsion movement to help pull it out. ❣️ **Patience and respect for your own time**: We are not all the same, we know that. By this I mean that since ***this is a new practice***, it may take time for each of us to feel more comfortable. Focus on the thought that it is a process or that it is not bad if you don't like it. 🧼 **Cleaning and hygiene**: ***Anal shower***, if that makes you feel more comfortable. Use a pipette and fill it with warm water. Put lubricant on the tip of the pipette to insert. The water will remove stool from the walls. It is recommended not to use more than 2 times per week so as not to alter the intestinal flora. It is a personal decision, as is hair removal in the zone. #**Anecdote:** *When I was a teenager 🐣 in a women's group where I was I heard that a girl had practiced anal sex and her anus had dilated FOREVER!!! and she could neither sit or walk! 😱I was horrified and shocked 😰 hahaha So, I was left with that misinformation for several years of my life. Then I found out that this is just one more prejudice or myth about anal sex* 🫠. ANAL DILATION IS NOT PERMANENT AND DOES NOT CAUSE INCONTINENCE 😌 *The sphincter area is a muscle and is part of the pelvic floor, so when you dilate it you are strengthening it. So my loves, the more you dilate the more you strengthen the rectum and sphincter, the stronger the pelvic floor and the less contingencies in the future! The sum of the parts gives an equal to* 😁💯 **I hope this post reaches you with a lot of clarity!** ✨ Lots of love 💋